One of the most stressful parts of divorce is often dealing with your ex-spouse in the context of co-parenting.
Tensions may run high and neither of you may agree with each other, even when it comes to important topics like schooling or education. Knowing how to handle disagreements is one way to keep the peace for your child’s sake.
Focus on the present
According to Healthline, many people may drag arguments from the past into discussions about present parenting problems. Although this may not seem too damaging at first, it can actually hold you back from talking openly and honestly with your ex-spouse.
This adds to the feelings of tension and anxiety surrounding co-parenting for you both. Do not focus on what came before, but instead be positive about how you both can work together in the future.
Remember to compromise
Understanding that you need to compromise on some ideas or plans is important to reduce stress. A large part of co-parenting is the ability to talk about an issue without assigning blame.
If you go into a discussion expecting to compromise, it can help you both stay calm and respectful throughout the talk.
Collaborate for scheduling
When the holidays or summer vacation happens, you may feel overwhelmed trying to figure out where your child should go. Planning months ahead and organizing what dates your or your ex-spouse get him or her is one way to prevent this.
Alternating between years is a common way to split up important holidays. Preventing disagreements between co-parents is both challenging and rewarding, but keeping your cool can help you both work better together.