The traditional divorce litigation process is adversarial. Mediation is a form of alternative dispute resolution that helps encourage a more cordial relationship with your ex-spouse going forward.
Mediation is not magic, and sometimes things do not work out the way you want them to. However, according to SF Gate, there are steps you can take to help the process go more smoothly and get what you want out of it.
1. Control your emotions
Your spouse’s ability, and perhaps willingness, to push your buttons may be part of the reason you are divorcing him or her in the first place. Nevertheless, you can accomplish this necessary but sometimes difficult objective by devising a strategy to help calm yourself before the mediation proceedings take place. You should figure out a strategy that works for you, but it may help to focus on the big picture and take a deep breath before you start to speak.
2. Know when to take a break
Though less confrontational than litigation, mediation can still be grueling. If you feel like you need a chance to calm down and clear your head, you can ask for a break in the proceedings.
3. Do your homework
It helps if you come into the mediation with a good idea of your financial situation. Gather financial documents beforehand and look through them so that you know where you stand.
Mediation typically takes less time than litigation, which makes it less expensive. However, if you do not reach a settlement on the day, it is not a failure. The mediator asks you and your spouse to take some time to reflect on the situation and then contact him or her in a few weeks.